It's not a planner for your holiday. It's a plan for you inside the holiday.
You do not need to do the holidays perfectly. You need a plan that keeps you in the room.
From a mom of four, 22 Christmases in.
The holidays can look full and still feel heavy.
- Food noiseRules, bargaining, and a running tally while you are trying to enjoy dinner.
- Family pressureComments, expectations, and the old role you slide back into the second you walk in.
- Body changesThe jeans that fit differently, and the picture you quietly step out of.
- OverfunctioningYou plan it, buy it, cook it, and clean it. Then you are the last one to sit down.
- January fixingThe plan to make up for all of it on January 1st.
Real women. Real relief.
I am not here to help you do the holidays perfectly. I am here to keep you in them.
You already know what you want. Now you need a plan.
This kit is for you if...
- You want to enjoy dessert and the people, not tally one against the other
- You are tired of being the last one to sit down
- You want to get in the picture this year
- You dread January 1st and the plan to fix the holidays
- You want a plan on paper, not another thing to carry in your head
It is not for you if...
- You want a diet, a calorie plan, or a weigh-in schedule
- You are hoping the holidays will go well without any planning
- You want someone to tell you what your family should do
- You are not ready to take up space at your own table yet. Then skip it. No hard feelings
I made the plan I wanted for myself.
I am a mom of four, married 24 years, and I have done 22 Christmases of trial, error, and hacks. I also know what it feels like to be standing in the middle of a life that looks full and still feel like you are missing from it.
The holidays make that louder. So I stopped waiting to feel ready and started writing it down. Where I would stand, what I would eat, what I would say, and what I would do on January 2nd.
You are allowed to have a plan for you too.
I am a patient advocate and coach, not a doctor, dietitian, or therapist. This kit is educational and reflective.
- Enjoy dessert and the people at the table
- Get in the picture
- Sit down at my own table
- Say no before I resent the yes
- Wake up on January 2nd as myself
Most holiday help covers the menu. This covers you.
Three parts, in the order the day actually happens.
Before
Know which kind of heavy you are carrying, and decide what you need before you walk in.
During
Eat like a person, say it calmly, and stay in the room when the old pattern shows up.
After
Handle the morning after and January with care, not a courtroom.
Most plans give you one. This kit gives you all three, because that is what holds when the day gets loud.
Everything you get in the Holiday Peace Kit
Know which kind of heavy it is
A short quiz that names what is loudest this year, so you plan for that first.
Walk in with a plan
Set your intention and your limits before the day starts, on paper.
Eat like a person, not a rulebook
Let one meal be one meal, and keep dessert from becoming a verdict.
Say it calmly, out loud
Phrases and boundaries you can actually use before and during the event.
Your whole plan on one page
Pull it together and tape it to the fridge, or keep it in your phone.
And more
The pages below, all in the same 22-page kit.
- One Bite
- Body + Clothes
- Overfunctioning Audit
- During the Event
- After the Event
- January
- Faith Grounding (1 Peter 5:7)
- Quick Reference
Holiday Peace Reminders, free through Thanksgiving
The kit gives you the plan. The reminders give you the words to borrow when the old pattern shows up.
30 phone wallpapers and printable mirror cards. Each one pairs a truth with what you get back when you believe it. A $7 value, yours free when you get the kit by Thursday, November 26.
After Thanksgiving they are available as a $7 add-on.
One payment. Instant download.
- 22-page printable, fillable workbook
- The Self-Check quiz
- Food, family, body, and overfunctioning plans
- After the Event and January resets
- Faith grounding and a one-page plan
- Free bonus: Holiday Peace Reminders ($7 value, through Nov 26)
- Optional $7 add-on at checkout: Holiday Peace Reminders
Questions, answered.
Is this a diet or a food plan?
No. No calories, no rules, no weigh-ins. You already have enough people with opinions about your plate.
Do I need to print it?
No. You can type right into the PDF on your computer or tablet. You can also print the pages you want and write on them.
How fast do I get it?
Right away. You get a download link on the confirmation page and in your email as soon as you check out.
How long does it take?
Start with the two-minute Self-Check. Most women fill in a page or two in an evening, then save the rest for the day things get loud.
Who is this for?
Women who want to enjoy the holidays without carrying the whole room, the whole menu, and the guilt that comes after.
Is this medical advice?
No. It is an educational and reflective workbook. Talk with your own doctor or care team about anything medical.
Your holiday starts here.
You have planned everyone else's holiday for 22 years. Plan yours.
- 22-page printable, fillable kit
- The Self-Check quiz
- Before, During, and After plans
- A one-page plan for the fridge
- Free Holiday Peace Reminders through Nov 26